What Kind Of A Man Are You?
What kind of a man are you? You should ask yourself this question often in your life. This is an identity-building question. It shapes how you think. Before that, it exposes how you think. It forces you to become the ideal version of yourself. This question opens so many doors for introspection that, if you are truthful, it has the potential to transform you.
No amount of resolution, willpower, or commitment holds a candle to this question. Make a promise and keep it. Every time you are tempted to break it because no one's watching, ask yourself this question. What kind of a man breaks promises? What kind of a man backs away after making a commitment?
The answer is often brutal. A man who breaks promises is a man one should never trust. No amount of tomfoolery can get you out of that honest assessment. You can try all you want to reason yourself out of it, but there is no way. In your heart you know it's an excuse you are giving. This is why people eventually stop asking this question.
This builds your identity. But before that, it breaks the existing identity. And in between, it feels chaotic. You will feel lost. Disoriented. Demotivated even. But hang in there. Follow the process you have built for yourself. Keep walking that path and you will arrive at your destination. And then the question will make a lot of sense.
Add more layers to this question. If you love writing so much, why aren't you writing it? What kind of a man does that? One who isn't really serious. If you love something so much, wouldn't you do it? If you were a crack addict, wouldn't you do anything to get your dose? If you had pain in your body, wouldn't you prioritise it? Therein lies the discovery of your answer. The thing you are stalling on isn't hurting you enough.
You need to pick up that pen and write down your ideal version. What kind of person you want to become. Then write down the things you need to do to become that person. A fat man who wants to be fit needs to watch what he eats. Consult a doctor. Get a blood report done and figure out what's going on in your body. Consult a nutritionist. A man who is concerned about his body will do everything to fix it. Keep it in shape.
If you love her so much, why aren't you doing anything to have her in your life? You are too chicken to ask her out. What kind of a man lets his woman walk away without even trying to stop her? The question can take you to places you haven't been. It will open doors that make you uncomfortable at first. But once you get used to it, it becomes therapeutic.
Be the ideal version you always wished to become. The hurdles are just the excuses you have put in the way. Figure out a way to build your identity anyway. One question at a time.