The Paradox Of Suffering
You will never escape suffering because suffering is not a destination from which you can flee. It is a mental state that emerges from your interpretation of circumstances. But I’m not talking about minor frustrations; I’m referring to a grander kind of suffering—the kind that shatters you into pieces and burns you to ashes.
This profound suffering comes from losing loved ones, losing friendships, losing relationships, and losing everything you’ve built. Worst of all, it comes from losing time. You cannot escape these sufferings; if you live long enough, you will inevitably experience them, in some order or another.
What makes suffering painful is its brutal confrontation with truth. In those moments, the truth appears raw and unfiltered—without excuses, without comforting illusions. This is why breakups hurt, why death cuts so deeply, and why loneliness stings. They all remind us of a singular, painful truth: that we have lost, and we are alone in the labyrinth of life.
But here lies the paradox—without the fire of suffering, there is no transformation. The more we suffer, the more we internalize pain, and the closer we come to confronting truth in its starkest form. Pain is not just an affliction; it is a reminder of the eternal truths that govern existence. And if you pay close attention, pain does more than expose these truths—it exposes you. It strips away the false layers you’ve built to protect yourself. If you are committed to enduring it, suffering becomes a catalyst for transformation.
Suffering, then, is being closer to truth. The further you are from truth, the more you suffer, because you resist seeing things as they are. When you avoid suffering, you avoid truth, and in doing so, you distort your understanding of reality. You cannot objectively analyze your choices if you aren’t willing to confront uncomfortable truths. Objectivity demands a higher tolerance for truth—even when it cuts you open. And in life, one must always choose the ugly truth over comforting lies, even when it leads to suffering. It is fine to bleed because only through bleeding can you heal.
Suffering is not optional. The only way to manage suffering is by cultivating a preference for truth, no matter how harsh. In the end, the more you embrace truth, the less you resist suffering, and the more you are transformed by it.