The Cost Of Objectivity
Objectivity is easier said than followed. When someone dislikes you with everything they have, can you still regard them without resorting to the visceral disgust you feel inside? If you can, you are objective to some degree.
It's impossible to live a life where everyone you meet loves you. The math doesn't work that way and it was never supposed to. You will antagonise a few people. If you are too insecure and seek validation, you will buckle under the intense pressure of isolation. Once you start fearing isolation, you will do anything to belong to those people. And this need for belonging will make you surrender your objectivity.
The approach is hard to cultivate because it requires you to see the world for what it is, without wearing the lens of your bias, your emotions, and your prior understanding of something similar. You look at the evidence, you understand the psychology behind human actions, you bring in empathy, and then you ask whether the person is merely different or genuinely bad.
People who think differently are usually despised in the beginning because they stick out like a sore thumb. They get labelled as weird, especially the ones who refuse to conform. They are easily hated by those who want people to bend the knee, to comply, to be agreeable, to sacrifice their identity and what makes them distinct so they can be accepted into a group.
You might wonder why anyone would be this foolish. But people resort to this kind of self-betrayal repeatedly, without realising they are dismantling themselves. For someone who is truly objective, only the truth matters. It doesn't matter whether the truth offends their sensibilities or unsettles their existing beliefs. All that matters is what is actually true.
And truth hurts because truth is uncertain. Sometimes there is simply no evidence to determine what is really going on with a person or situation. So you have to wait before forming an opinion, which is precisely what your brain resists. It wants a conclusion so it knows which way to lean, and it wants one immediately.
The preference for truth comes with a price. Sometimes that price is isolation. But if you are capable of sitting with contradictory evidence against your existing beliefs, you will never fear it. You probably won't mind, because you understand that the outcome of truth outweighs minor inconvenience. You have wrestled with your own mind and convictions so many times that it has quietly made you stronger.
So prefer truth, no matter the cost. If the purpose of life is to understand life, then the only way to do that is to yearn for higher truth. God is also one of the truths you eventually arrive at. That is why we speak of enlightenment, the state of achieving absolute clarity and truth.