Heartbreaks Are Temporary
We all remember the hurt after our first breakup, the first time someone left us for someone else, the first time we thought the world was a cruel place, the first time we truly felt alone. These moments of heartbreak feel as if they might destroy us, but they donât. As you grow older and wiser, you realise heartbreaks are temporary and never come close to killing us.
A bad breakup isnât exactly what hurts most. What truly hurts is the loneliness that follows. Going through the same exhausting ordeal of becoming a person someone might approve of, seeking validation again, is daunting. And despite how fast the world moves, people still find long-lasting relationships deeply appealing. Unless we are mentally broken, we generally seek lasting bonds. That requires being at our most vulnerable. This is what we long for, and our mind wonât rest until it finds it. That is exactly why people go through so many relationships. The driving force is hope.
We are always hoping to meet someone after whom weâll never need to search again. After a tough breakup, when we collapse in tears, convinced life is meaningless, our mind gradually picks up the broken pieces of our shattered illusion and helps us build another one. If heartbreak were truly destructive, our mind wouldnât be helping us cope with the pain. We all eventually recover. Some in weeks, some in months, and a rare few in years.
When I see young people today lamenting that relationships âarenât like they used to be,â I chuckle at their naivety. Relationships were always like this. People and their behaviour havenât changed much in centuries, which means the impact of heartbreaks has always been the same. So when I hear them moaning about why they can never find someone worthy, I smile and encourage them to look harder.
Heartbreaks are temporary; the quest for love is eternal. After all, love makes the world go round. Sometimes it just takes a long detour to find the right one.