Get Married
Get married as soon as you can. If not sooner, then at least make sure you do get married eventually. There’s no greater joy than having someone with whom you never have to pretend. You don’t need to search for friends; you always have a companion at every step of your life, in good times and bad. And the best part is that romance only becomes more beautiful as time passes.
If it feels like I’m selling the idea of marriage to you, then yes, I am—because it’s one of the most beautiful things that can happen in our lives. Its significance is so profound that if it falls apart, your entire life can feel shattered. On the other hand, if you have a good marriage, you gain memories worth telling your grandchildren.
When I was naive and still in my formative years, I used to wonder how anyone could love one person for their entire life. I found that to be the toughest thing imaginable. Now I find it the easiest. We are not designed to love and care for the entire world. Loving one person, caring about them, and the family you build together is enough for us. It should be enough for all of us.
Marriage also demands deep introspection about who you are and whether what you expect from others is reasonable. A simple rule of thumb is this: if you find yourself asking too much, either you aren’t grateful, or the other person is absent in some essential way. While I believe marriage is one of the most sacred things on earth, I also believe it sometimes doesn’t work because people are incompatible—or because they hurt each other.
And yet, I will always advocate finding a good partner and getting married. Nobody should grow old lonely. Nobody should endure loneliness. A woman can do unthinkable things for her family to ensure her husband stays strong and her home remains intact. A man can conquer insurmountable challenges for his wife and children. This fierce resilience is only possible when you love someone more than yourself. It only happens when you are committed for life. It cannot happen in casual dating simply because the stakes aren’t high enough.
Get married to the right person. The right person is someone you don’t mind loving even with their unattractive traits. That is the only thing that keeps any relationship afloat—love. Be someone worth loving. It’s perfectly fine to have a distinct personality, but do not become unbearable to someone. Love each other for who you are, and you will see your marriage become the sacred bond that God wished it to be in every scripture of the world.