Feeling Attraction Isn’t A Sin
We’ve all felt drawn to someone since childhood, and even more strongly in adulthood. We give these feelings names like infatuation or crush, as though such attractions must be “crushed.” In relationships, an unspoken rule often insists that we should not be attracted to anyone else. If we are, it’s seen as disloyalty, almost as if loving someone is a discipline to be practiced rather than a natural bond to be cherished.
But attraction is deeply rooted in biology. We naturally feel good around people we admire or find pleasing to the eye. Attraction makes you want to linger longer, talk longer, or simply stay in someone’s company. There’s nothing wrong with that, so long as you remain respectful and mindful of your behavior.
The real issue arises when attraction is pushed too far. You may begin expecting the other person to reciprocate. If they do, all seems well; if they don’t, frustration often leads to conflict, damaged relationships, or hurtful experiences.
Morally, there’s nothing wrong with feeling attraction, ethics don’t apply to what’s hardwired into biology. What matters is how you respond to these impulses. Hunger, too, is biological. There’s nothing wrong with feeling hungry; but stealing food is. Likewise, simply being attracted to someone doesn’t harm anyone. Acting recklessly on it, however, can.
This brings us to the question of why. Do you feel drawn to one particular person, or to many? Is there a certain “type” you prefer? Are you neglecting someone who actually deserves more of your attention? These are the complications. A simple attraction or “crush” is harmless. But neglecting responsibilities or behaving irrationally in the name of attraction can slide into flawed morality.
So when you like someone, whether for their personality or their looks, be aware of your feelings. Acknowledge that you are responding to certain qualities in them. And remember: it’s normal to feel this way, but you don’t have to act on every impulse just because you feel it.